This is such a divisive topic for many reasons. Those with perfect looks may love to argue that looks do matter after all so that they have reason to be proud of the work they have done on their appearance. But those with imperfect looks would love to know that they still have a chance at success in life if only their souls are beautiful. But the question remains, do looks matter?
Yes, I think they do matter. But not in the way you think.
Do you know who’s opinion about you matters the most? Yours. It is your judgement of yourself that is most important. And most of the time it’s not other people who judge you by your looks. It’s you. You judge yourself by your outward appearance.
If you believe your looks aren’t perfect, people will see your insecurity. If you try too hard to dress and act in a way that compensates for what you think is imperfect in your appearance, people will see that. You wear baggy clothes because you think they’ll make you thinner, people will notice that. And they may become aware of what you think are flaws in your appearance even if they never judged you to begin with. It will be because you drew attention to those features by your behavior. And it may hurt you tremendously when people point out those flaws because you would agree with them. You would believe that it is the awful, painful truth.
On the other hand, if you strongly believe that you are beautiful the way you are, that you can live a perfect and meaningful life just as you are, nobody will be able to make you feel inferior because of your appearance. What people say won’t matter. Your confidence will be the shield that protects you from the daggers they may throw at you with their words.
There are many people who do not have what society considers to be the perfect appearance. But because they believe that they are beautiful and they act that way, nobody dares to judge them. The confidence and self-security they exude silences everybody. They don’t let anybody make them doubt their beauty.
So ultimately, you decide whether looks matter or not. What do you think about yourself? Do you know and believe in your beauty?
And as always, cheers to life!