It’s The ‘Good Men’ That You Should Fear

It’s The ‘Good Men’ That You Should Fear

Nobody will believe you when you tell them it was him. Even you won’t believe yourself. And that’s the worst part.


Okay, take your hand off your mouth and stop holding your breath. I’m not about to make some horrid confession about childhood abuse or any such thing.


This is what I want to ask though: If you’re going to the street to meet some notorious criminal, a serial killer, a Gadaffi, a Hitler for instance, you will take some precautions right? You might go wearing a bulletproof vest, carrying two guns under your jacket, and you might even stick a knife in your left shoe just for extra safety. Maybe you’ll secretly tip the police so they send their men to casually stand behind the telephone booth or next to the kiosk at your meeting place.


But if you’re going to meet someone that you think you know and trust, your mom, your sister, your first born son perhaps, you won’t bother with all that will you? Heck, you might even decide it’s alright to go with your old t-shirt and your pyjama shorts.


Now, if both of these people decide to pull out a gun and shoot you, who’s more likely to succeed in killing you?


woman at a bar, it's the good men you should fear


Do you know that “good guys” only exist in movies? In the real world, all people have an equal amount of good and bad in them and depending on the circumstances, they’ll show you either their good side or their bad side. That’s right, even the Dallai Lama can slit your throat if you threaten his what he considers sacred. There is no set of “good people” that you can trust at all times, and there’s no alternative set of “bad people” that you should forever fear and distrust.


If you go out into the world on any given day, every single one of the people your meet has equal ability to either help or harm you.


Yes, even his holiness, the Pope, can hurt you. Say for instance he says something on Twitter condemning mothers who abort their children, and you know for a fact that you have been forced to abort at least twice in your life, you might suddenly feel like you need to go live the Sahara to prepare yourself for life in hell. In that case, the Pope, the epitome of good men, the closest man to God, will have hurt you. You see what I mean?


The worst part is that the people who are generally considered “good”, the Mother Theresas, the Mandelas, the M. L. Kings, those are the ones that can do the most damage to you, not only because you won’t be prepared for their backstabbing, but also because they might not notice that they’re hurting you. And you might not notice that you’re being hurt. And the people around you might not notice that there’s a murder happening right in front of them. Until it’s way too late to undo any of the damage.


Maybe you have the most wonderful mother in the world. Maybe she’s kind to others, she gives to charity, she’s always there to listen to every single one of your problems. She’s a good person. And she’s making sure to raise you to be a good person too. Now let’s say this same mother, is very religious, and maybe… has homophobic tendencies.


She wants to teach you to become a good person too, so maybe she convinces you to be against the rainbow idea too.  She might even say things like, “gay people are going to hell.” But she’s a good person, is she not? What she says must be good too. So you’ll convince yourself that what she is saying is the gospel truth. And you also start supporting the anti-gay movements. And before you know it, you’re saying things like, “stop being a fag” to that boy that sits behind you in social studies class and likes to wear pink and paint his nails. Before you know it, you’ll be a militant homophobic, hating and speaking out against everything that is not ramrod straight.


rainbow flag, it's the good men you should fear


Will she notice the damage? No. She was just raising you to have what she thought were good morals. Will you notice the damage? No. She was your good mother so everything she did must have been right. Will your dad and your friends notice the damage? No, because, how could the person that gives so much of herself to others ever do anything wrong?


So is the solution to distrust everybody? I suggest that you should rather keep your eyes open and your brain active at all times. Don’t assume that you can put someone on the “good guy” list then cruise through life trusting their every action. No, you don’t get to be that lazy, no offence. I suggest that you judge everyone’s individual actions as you experience them.


Keep your mind working. Act like you’re an impartial judge in court with everyone’s actions. So someone did X? Don’t just accept X as good or bad based on whether or not the person falls on the “good guy” list. But rather, have a mental mock trial where you list out all that’s good about X, and all that’s bad about it. Only then can you decide if X is good or bad.


The same person that helped you get your dream job could be the one conspiring to get you fired. The devil rarely comes with horns and a pitchfork.


And as always, cheers to life!

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14 thoughts on “It’s The ‘Good Men’ That You Should Fear”

  • Interesting take on life 🙂

    I enjoyed the article. I think it’s not important to judge other people’s actions too much. It’s much more important to judge your own actions, because that’s all you can control.

    And in the end, you’ll never know whether something is really good or bad, because you don’t know what’s going to happen. So for me, these outside things are indifferent, they don’t matter too much.

    I agree with you that we should have someone on the good guy list and trust him no matter what. It’s always smarter to think twice and check another perspective.

    Keep up your good work!

  • I just met a really good guy who has good word of mouth. I can’t imagine thinking in this way. to generalize human beings. With age comes wisdom. Expecting everything from everybody isn’t realistic, but believing in the good in people is.

    • I believe there are people who do good things, and there are people who do bad things. But I don’t think there are “good people” or “bad people” that consistently do what we expect of them according to the category we’ve placed them in. Thanks for reading!

  • I loved this post. I find it important for you to always stay cognizant of who you trust because in today’s society people are often too ruthless and selfish to care about other people.

  • Honestly, there’s a lot of confusion in the arguments you present here. However, I think I get your point (though, I’m not quite sure). I agree with one of your assertions, that nobody is purely good or bad, which seems your main argument . The rest is a bit confusing . Why do you label “good people ” and “bad people” if you decided first that this distinction is not accurate ? You seem to encourage to mistrust people who may appear as “good”. But besides giving some vague examples of religious leaders you don’t really define “good “. You case Hittler as “serial killer “? I mean really? Also, I don’t think Dalai Lama would physically hurt anyone, for whatever reason. And if the Pope condemns abortion it’s because that’s what catholic religion believes. If you were better informed you’d knew Pope Francis does not condemn people who have aborted. I f a person feels hurt for that, it’s not the Pope’s fault. Or is it? Should he made responsible of the emotional reactions of non believers? I don’t see where that gets you. But apparently you conclude that is also bad.
    Overall confusing.

    • First, I’m glad you can see that the crux of my argument was that nobody should be considered perfect. Everyone is human, and they can, therefore, make mistakes and be wrong (and in their doing so, hurt others). My point is not to attack “good people” (which by the way I used as a term for whoever you yourself consider a good person — hence it’s in quotation marks). No one should be considered second to God and impossible of error. I don’t say that good people should be mistrusted at all times, but that they should be judged by their individual actions. Their actions should not immediately be cleared off just on the basis that we consider them “good people.”

      Secondly, if you really found my article confusing, I don’t think you would have taken the time to leave such a lengthy comment on it. From what you said, I think you understood exactly what I wanted to say and this was just your means of being defensive about it. For some reason, you seem to think I’m attacking you or your religion (which I am not, I’m a Christian myself).

      If you want to go one believing that there are people who can do no wrong out there, more power to you. This is a blog where I share my ideas about the world. I think people can be hurt unfairly when they are not aware that good people can be the cause of their pain too. I have myself been hurt the most by people that I trusted and considered good. That’s why I believe this is something worth telling others about. I don’t expect all of you to agree with what I say here. In fact, I welcome opposing opinions as long as they are well-substantiated. So tell me, do you really think it’s a good idea for me (or anyone else) to trust people blindly? To not expect to ever be hurt by so-called “good people”? Wouldn’t that non-believer have benefitted from going into the Pope interaction with a little bit of wariness or at least the knowledge that no matter how good a person is, that person can still cause them pain?

      And what confuses me still is why you seem to take such personal offense from this…

  • I enjoyed reading this article, as it is in line with how I would like to look at the world around me too. I was in the same situation a long time ago and was wondering about similar topics and wrote a post called Trust on my blog, if you would like to check it out.

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