Nobody will believe you when you tell them it was him. Even you won’t believe yourself. And that’s the worst part.
Okay, take your hand off your mouth and stop holding your breath. I’m not about to make some horrid confession about childhood abuse or any such thing.
This is what I want to ask though: If you’re going to the street to meet some notorious criminal, a serial killer, a Gadaffi, a Hitler for instance, you will take some precautions right? You might go wearing a bulletproof vest, carrying two guns under your jacket, and you might even stick a knife in your left shoe just for extra safety. Maybe you’ll secretly tip the police so they send their men to casually stand behind the telephone booth or next to the kiosk at your meeting place.
But if you’re going to meet someone that you think you know and trust, your mom, your sister, your first born son perhaps, you won’t bother with all that will you? Heck, you might even decide it’s alright to go with your old t-shirt and your pyjama shorts.
Now, if both of these people decide to pull out a gun and shoot you, who’s more likely to succeed in killing you?
Do you know that “good guys” only exist in movies? In the real world, all people have an equal amount of good and bad in them and depending on the circumstances, they’ll show you either their good side or their bad side. That’s right, even the Dallai Lama can slit your throat if you threaten his what he considers sacred. There is no set of “good people” that you can trust at all times, and there’s no alternative set of “bad people” that you should forever fear and distrust.
If you go out into the world on any given day, every single one of the people your meet has equal ability to either help or harm you.
Yes, even his holiness, the Pope, can hurt you. Say for instance he says something on Twitter condemning mothers who abort their children, and you know for a fact that you have been forced to abort at least twice in your life, you might suddenly feel like you need to go live the Sahara to prepare yourself for life in hell. In that case, the Pope, the epitome of good men, the closest man to God, will have hurt you. You see what I mean?
The worst part is that the people who are generally considered “good”, the Mother Theresas, the Mandelas, the M. L. Kings, those are the ones that can do the most damage to you, not only because you won’t be prepared for their backstabbing, but also because they might not notice that they’re hurting you. And you might not notice that you’re being hurt. And the people around you might not notice that there’s a murder happening right in front of them. Until it’s way too late to undo any of the damage.
Maybe you have the most wonderful mother in the world. Maybe she’s kind to others, she gives to charity, she’s always there to listen to every single one of your problems. She’s a good person. And she’s making sure to raise you to be a good person too. Now let’s say this same mother, is very religious, and maybe… has homophobic tendencies.
She wants to teach you to become a good person too, so maybe she convinces you to be against the rainbow idea too. She might even say things like, “gay people are going to hell.” But she’s a good person, is she not? What she says must be good too. So you’ll convince yourself that what she is saying is the gospel truth. And you also start supporting the anti-gay movements. And before you know it, you’re saying things like, “stop being a fag” to that boy that sits behind you in social studies class and likes to wear pink and paint his nails. Before you know it, you’ll be a militant homophobic, hating and speaking out against everything that is not ramrod straight.
Will she notice the damage? No. She was just raising you to have what she thought were good morals. Will you notice the damage? No. She was your good mother so everything she did must have been right. Will your dad and your friends notice the damage? No, because, how could the person that gives so much of herself to others ever do anything wrong?
So is the solution to distrust everybody? I suggest that you should rather keep your eyes open and your brain active at all times. Don’t assume that you can put someone on the “good guy” list then cruise through life trusting their every action. No, you don’t get to be that lazy, no offence. I suggest that you judge everyone’s individual actions as you experience them.
Keep your mind working. Act like you’re an impartial judge in court with everyone’s actions. So someone did X? Don’t just accept X as good or bad based on whether or not the person falls on the “good guy” list. But rather, have a mental mock trial where you list out all that’s good about X, and all that’s bad about it. Only then can you decide if X is good or bad.
The same person that helped you get your dream job could be the one conspiring to get you fired. The devil rarely comes with horns and a pitchfork.
And as always, cheers to life!
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