“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, and try again.” We have all heard this statement passed around by everybody and their mothers. And we all know that persistence is obviously the key to success. But let’s be honest, sometimes it’s extremely difficult for us to pick ourselves up after failing. It’s difficult to get over the pain of our failure and to try again. So how can we make it easier?
The first step is to make sure trying again is actually worth it. If you burned yourself trying to walk on hot coals, it might not be that wise to attempt the same challenge again. And as I mentioned in the article on giving up, some goals are better for you than others. So only some goals are worth fighting for and pursuing relentlessly. Before you try again, you need to remind yourself why you tried at all in the first place. Why is that goal important to you? What is at stake? Is it a goal that you feel society is pressuring you to achieve, is it a goal that you feel will add value to your life? For instance, it might be valuable for you to give marriage a second chance after failing once, but trying again and again to impress family members be a mere waste of time.
After that, you need to rekindle the hope that you once felt when you first pursued the goal. You need to see the light at the end of the tunnel again; you need to see yourself succeeding this time. The best way to do that would be to reflect on how you tried to achieve your goal before and see where you can change your approach so you can improve your chances of success. You need to go back in the past, find the precious lessons in your failure and let them be stepping stones for your future attempt. Come up with a new action plan, change your strategy somehow, and perhaps that will make it easier for you to see yourself trying again. Indeed, the only way you can expect to not fail again is if you try something different. After all, it was said by the wise Einstein that trying the same thing again and again and expecting different results is the very definition of insanity.
You also need to take the fear you have for failure, put it in an envelope and address it to hell. We always see failure as something that is to be avoided at all costs, something shameful and destructive. But in reality, most of our small failures are nothing but toothless cats pretending to be lions. No matter how hard you fall you should trust that you will be able to stand up again. Whatever failure comes your way, you will be able to rise above it. Your failure will most likely not cause the apocalypse. Stop being so afraid of it. And actually, if you tried and failed once already, and you managed to get yourself up again, that is evidence that you have the power in you to conquer failure.
You should never let previous failures prevent you from living your best life. If there is something that did not work out the first time, something you think might bring more splendor into your life, go ahead and try again. Put on your armor and try to conquer one more time.
And as always, cheers to life!