A few days ago, I found myself pacing up and down in my room, ready to break a thing or two in frustration. I had been listening to Lilly Singh’s audiobook, How To Be A Bawse, and she said the trigger words that every self-help guru and their mama always says: “You have to take the stairs to success. There are no escalators.”
You know how many times I’ve heard that? As many times as times as I’ve found myself lying on the floor, completely defeated, after trying almost everything to succeed, and failing. In other words, way too many times!
Here is my thing, I am more than willing to climb the stairs to success, okay. I even bought new Nike sneakers just for the occasion. I have my workout playlist ready on Google Music, I’ve even got the special edition Beats Bluetooth headphones ready to be blasted. I’m ready to go beast mode on these stairs. And you best believe, I’m going to make it to the top. Only one problem though: where is the staircase again?
You see, that’s my problem right there. A lot of times, I am more than ready to do the hard work to get to my success, but I just don’t know exactly what that “hard work” should be.
The other day, all I wanted was a very simple answer: how do I grow my YouTube audience. And you know what everyone kept telling me? Just “work hard” and “produce good videos”. Well, you know how many people out there are “producing good videos”? I’m pretty sure there are at least a hundred fantastic videos out there that never get views for every single video that goes viral.
All I wanted to know was, what exactly should I be doing every single day to get more subscribers? I’ve been producing good videos already! I’ve been working hard! Which steps on which staircase should I be taking every day to make it on YouTube? And if one more person tells me, I should just “create good content” I swear I’m going to cut a throat.
Yes, I’m willing to work hard to achieve whatever success I want, but my question is, what exactly is it that I should be doing? What steps should I be taking? Where is that staircase you speak of?
Why is it that people always give such vague advice when you ask about how to achieve success with something? Why won’t anybody give you clear and specific directions on how to make it to the top? You ask, “How can I lose ten pounds?” and they just tell you, “Work out and eat healthy.” Which workouts should I do? How long should I workout? How many days a week? And what in heaven’s name does “eat healthy” even mean? No carbs? No fats? Gluten-free? Ice cubes only? What does it mean?
Could it be… that people just don’t know how to achieve success and that’s why they beat around the bush when you ask them? Could it be that everyone is just bluffing and nobody knows where the staircase to success really is? Could it be that nobody has the answer?
Maybe those who succeeded just tried a couple of things and were lucky enough to succeed. But they don’t really know exactly what ingredient was key to their success. And maybe even if they show you what stairs they took to succeed, that same staircase won’t lead you to your success.
Maybe the fact is that you should not only take the stairs to success, but you should also figure out for yourself where these stairs are. Maybe at times, there are no stairs in sight and you literally have to build the whole staircase yourself, and then climb it. *mindblown*
You have to figure out what steps will lead you to your success, and work hard to take those steps every single day. Actually, if you think about it, it’s lazy to think that the map to success will just be handed to you, without you having to work for it.
Things are not always as simple as we want them to be.
And as always,
Cheers to life!