She has people who adore her all over the world. She has millions of fans who see no difference between her and God. She has over 16 million dollars in her name. She is Lilly Singh, one of the most influential people of our generation. Will you believe me when I tell you she cries herself to sleep sometimes? That she feels no one cares about her? That she feels lonely?
When you think of people like Beyoncé, Barack Obama, or His Holiness Pope Francis, do you ever think that they could have insecurities too? When you think of PhD-holding scientists, CEOs of multi-million dollar companies, or billionaire investors, does it ever strike you that they also want to be loved and accepted just like you do? When you think of your high school teachers, your bosses, your managers, your supervisors, do you ever think that they’re people too who might be hurt by the things you say when you’re gossiping with your friends or laughing around with your colleagues?
A lot of times, we think that money or fame or authority are magic potions that turn people into superhuman beings who don’t have hearts and emotions like we do. That’s why we think it’s alright to sit behind our computers and our phones and send hateful tweets to celebrities we don’t like. Why they’re rich and famous! Our words won’t bother them, right? She’s the famous Kim Kardashian, of course. Why on earth would she be hurt if you call her a slut, or a washout, or a talentless celebrity who’s “just famous for being famous”?
In the same way, we think it’s alright to gossip about our teachers in the hallways, or to talk about how our bosses are idiots in the breakroom. Why, these people have titles and badges, and a whole lot of authority. They are the adults and the top-dogs. They won’t be bothered by us talking about how they need to join the gym or hire new stylists. Right?
Here is the truth: No matter how rich, or famous, or powerful a person becomes, they will still have a body of flesh and bone, and a heart that can be hurt by your words. No matter how high up the ladder a person goes, they remain human. They are still people. If you call them ugly, or stupid, or losers, they will be hurt.
You shouldn’t assume that people become immune to your hurtful words or actions just because they live in LA and have a couple of extra coins in the bank. Before you decide to send them any hate or to assume it’s okay for them to be treated unfairly, just put yourself in their shoes. Think of how you yourself would feel if you were in their position and such negativity was being sent your way. Even at this moment right now while you don’t have the money and the fame, try to make their situation yours, their life your own, and think honestly and truly of how you would be affected by certain events.
No matter what stage of life we’re at, or what rung we reach on the ladder of success, we all have this in common: We all want to be happy. We all want to be loved. And we all want to be accepted by the people around us. Money, fame, and authority don’t magically erase these basic needs. Keep that in mind, please?
And as always,
Cheers to life!