“Never give up!” is a very famous motivational statement. It’s true that dreams only come true after you have fought and worked hard for them consistently for a long time. You need to have a persistent bone in your body to succeed. But are there times when it’s okay to give up?
For most of us, the peace and freedom we enjoy today is only possible because some great souls back in past said, “We will not give up!” And so they fought long, harsh wars to ensure our freedom. They were relentless and they never wavered in the face of danger. They kept fighting for the independence of their countries. For that reason, we can walk freely on our home soils. And that same spirit of persistence is responsible for the success of Olympic athletes and international musicians. So, as many would agree, it often pays to not give up.
But how is it that some women stay in abusive marriages for years even though they have multiple ways to escape? Do they chant the same “never give up” adage to themselves? How is it that some business men continue to practice the strategies that have continuously brought them failure upon failure? Because of that same adage?
Long before modern medicine, many doctors believed the only way to cure a disease was to drill a hole in the patient’s head so the disease-causing spirit can escape. It would be horrific if that still happened today. It would be horrific if they did not give up on their ideas.
I know persistence is the key to success. But there are times when quitting means winning.
Sometimes we need to give up on methods. Was it not said that the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing again and again expecting different results? But these days we find ourselves clinging on to methods that have failed us again and again because we seem to think that giving up implies we are weak and incapable. And we don’t want to join The Quitters Club of Weak Individuals.
Whatever it is that you’re doing, it’s important to take a break every once in a while to think about what you’re doing and how you plan to get to your goals. Then you can see whether or not giving up is the better option. If you’re in a race, it’s only when you stop and look around that you can see everybody else is moving in the the opposite direction, that you’re going in the wrong direction.
Just know that there are many ways for you to fulfill your goals and dreams and some of them are better than others.
And just as there are many ways to reach a goal, there are many goals to be reached. Some of them are better for you than others. Some goals will make you hate your very existence as you pursue them; some goals you will enjoy pursuing. And sometimes it may be a good idea to abandon the goals that aren’t right for you. Life is short and you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. So perhaps it’s less than wise to trade today’s happiness for tomorrow’s in chasing the goals that make you hate your life. Perhaps it’s better to pursue the goals you enjoy pursuing.
Now and then it may be wise to consider then unpopular idea of giving up.
And as always, cheers to life!